Tag Archives: dating

Stella Got Her Groove… And Died!

Those of you old enough, or hip enough to have heard “Mom’s Mabley” (real name Loretta Mary Aiken) – might remember he standard opening line –

“The only thing an old man can do for me is to get on a bicycle and bring me a message from a young man!”

Moms, Pigmeat Markum, and Red Foxx were a staple of the “Chitlin’ Circuit”.

Turns out Mom’s was wrong…

Now all you ladies out there on those “Computer Dating” sites in your 40’s and 50’s checking that box for those 20 somethings…

Better take note!

Women marrying a partner seven to nine years younger increase their relative mortality risk by 20% compared with couples where both are the same age. But the relative mortality risk of a husband who is seven to nine years older is reduced by 11%. Source: Sven Drefahl

Marrying a younger man increases a woman’s mortality rate

Women who are seven to nine years older than their husbands have a 20% higher mortality rate than if they were the same age

Women with much younger husbands may die younger on average because they experience more stress, Drefahl speculates.

The secret to a longer life is to marry someone the same age, at least if you are a woman, researchers say.

Marriage generally improves life expectancy, but the age gap between a couple affects the life expectancy of men and women very differently.

Marrying an older man shortens a woman’s lifespan, but having a younger husband reduces it even more, the study found.

The findings, drawn from the medical records of two million Danish couples, suggest that the best a woman can do is marry a man of about the same age. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on May 13, 2010 in Nawwwwww!, The Post-Racial Life


Tags: , , , , , , , , ,

Serial Killer… Who Won the Dating Game

Uhhhh… To those folks out there who are Internet dating…

Vodpod videos no longer available.

Talk about your date from hell!

Convicted serial killer won on ‘Dating Game’

Before he was a convicted serial killer, Rodney Alcala was a winning bachelor on “The Dating Game.”

“Oh yeah, I remember it quite clearly,” said Jed Mills, the game-show contestant who sat next to Alcala in 1978. “He was creepy. Definitely creepy.”

Found guilty in February of murdering four women and a child, Alcala, 66, is acting as his own attorney in the penalty phase of the trial. He is hoping to persuade the jury in Santa Ana, California, to spare his life.

The crimes Alcala committed date to the late 1970s. Nobody at the time knew the man with the wavy long hair and toothy grin was an apparent psychopath — an unstable, antisocial personality.

That includes Mills, a veteran television and film actor, whose only encounter with Alcala was when both of them appeared on “The Dating Game.”

“That’s when I became part of a nightmare, and I didn’t realize it was a nightmare until 32 years later,” Mills said.

Alcala, who already had been convicted for the 1968 rape of an 8-year-old girl, was the first contestant to be introduced in the game-show episode. Read the rest of this entry »

Leave a comment

Posted by on March 9, 2010 in Nawwwwww!


Tags: , , , , , ,

Single black women should end the blame game

Hat Tip – The Grio

This is part of an opinion piece by Dr. Boyce Watkins dealing with the falling marriage numbers in the black community. For the whole thing – go here.

Watkins points out that while black men have been assigned much of the blame, the reality is that black women share much more of the blame than is typically assigned to them. He questions the “common wisdom” – even that voiced by President Obama and Attorney General Eric Holder…

Having recently gone back on the market myself, I have to admit to one huge pet peeve. Trying to make an introduction and speak to an attractive black woman can be a minefield – no matter how politely approached, or well accoutered a guy is. Sisters are experts at the shoot down. Now – that’s not a one way thing, in that I’ve certainly seen some low class hardheads come with some pretty crude crap, after being shot down with a crude intro, and maybe that, in part – poisons the market. However, that iron wall shuts down conversation at any level.

Second, no guy in his right mind wants anything to do with a woman describing herself as a “Diva”. Don’t need a “Queen” either. And any guy who thinks he’s going to be a “King” in a household with any woman worth her salt deserves what he gets, which is almost always a lot of frustration. Maybe if a few more folks valued the concept of partnership instead of primitive ego gratification?

To Dr. Watkin’s critique –

I often wonder if there is more to the black relationships story than that. Here are some thoughts to consider:

1) Whites aren’t staying married either, so this is not just solely a black issue. The next time Barack Obama gives a speech about black men “behaving like little boys” because they don’t live with their children, I would love to see him give that same speech to the millions of divorcees in white America. Given that roughly 50% of white marriages end in divorce, we can’t presume that black people create the only dysfunctional families in America. All of America is turning away from marriage, and that’s just a fact.

2) Are men the only ones to blame here? When I watched the beautiful women on the ABC special who felt that they could never find a husband, I heard some of my educated, fully employed male friends say, “I’d marry any one of them right now!” Over the years, I’ve seen many women pass over good men who would make excellent husband/boyfriend/baby daddy material. (Sorry, I hold no ill will toward baby’s daddies – I only care about love, not labels). Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on January 5, 2010 in The Post-Racial Life


Tags: , , , ,

Those Eligible Black Women

Professional black women remain single much longer than their white counterparts. Is it the shortage of eligible black men due to dysfunctions in the black community – or are black women’s standards impossibly high? This is an interesting discussion by 60 Minutes Atlanta, with Steve Harvey –


Posted by on December 28, 2009 in The Post-Racial Life


Tags: , , ,

%d bloggers like this: